How New Wave Feminism and Hypergamy destroyed My Humanity and made me question my Leftist assumptions. AKA :Confessions from a Volantary Celibate: or part 2 in my series in Leaving the 'Left': Taking the Red Pill: My Break with New Wave Feminism.

I was told once that I had an extreme case of hatred for women.  At first I was kind of taken aback by the idea. I never thought that I hated women.  Because I like women I feel the need to reply to my critics, so maybe it's time for me to be brutally honest here and explain just what it is that I really think about women, and why I think that New Wave Feminism might just destroy society. 

Like most men in the red pill movement I have an easy time complaining about women. Unlike those men I'm not afraid to admit how the lingering effects of growing up in the Patriarchy has left toxic scars on me. That's because my negative view of women wasn't just  informed by the games that men and women play in order to form relationships. It's explained by my beliefs about evolutionary psychology.  You see I believe evolution has programmed women to play the game of hypergamy and dominance rather than that of equality.

THE RISE OF THE INCEL AND NICE GUY SYDROME AKA: THE DARK SIDE OF HYPERGAMY 

If you ask most women on social media what the problems with men are, they rarely mention the existential risks women actually face from toxic men. Instead they'll talk about incels, the nice guy syndrome, and they flash their distaste at the men who they've placed in the friendzone. You can almost smell the privileged from here. White upper and middle class women respond to such inquiries unseriously and only with a list of the things their failed suitors do to make their lives slightly more uncomfortable. Then these same women deplore modern men and the end of chivalry and ask, "Where have all the good men gone? 

THE BATTLE OF THE SEXES

I used to think it was funny to call my self an incel because I've been alone most of my life, alienated from female affections just like my brothers in the red pill movement. Though it's not just my status as a short, poor, bald, simping, beta male that situates my grievances against women. It's the failure of women to evolve from their evolutionary imperative of hypergamy to seek true equality with men.

Women blame men for the minor harassments that modern women face, but it was Women who created the nice guys. They devalue masculinity and cut at men with their words, and wonder why men are shy. Women watched as high paying manufacturing jobs disappeared, so they joined the work force for income equality and independence, then wonder why men abandoned their roles as earners and protectors. They insist men stop burying their feelings, but insult the emotional man when he cries. They hold out the possibility of a relationship to men they don't value, despite knowing all along they are using him for just emotional support and resources, and then deposit his bitter defiance into the friend zone. 

Do my admissions have you sensing hostility from me instead of truth seeking? I hope not, but if you do I hope you'll give me a chance to explain myself.*

We are in the entering into an era of major societal changes for men and women. With future directions seeming to point ultimately to the near or total extinction of the male gender. You may think I'm engaging in hyperbole here, but I am not. My opinion is fearful, but scientifically speaking the ultimate answer isn't settled. Would it be better for for humanity for males to extinct? I don't quite know how to think about those that insist it would be better. And ultimately no one is sure what form evolution or human directed policies will take us. But at the very least there are major forces of selection lining up against men. To fight those forces will require massive transformation on society's part as well as adaption from males and females at speeds that evolution didn't prepare us for.

WHAT'S WRONG WITH MEN? 

Now, let's talk about masculinity in more detail so we can understand why it might be selected against in the future. 

Aggression. 

On the plus side, male aggression has been responsible for getting us out of the jungle. It's creative impulse developed civilization. But civilization itself can thrives only so much as male aggression is sublimated into the world building process. 

From a negative perspective, toxic male aggression poses certain challenges in keeping the peace: internally within the male, between individuals where we find men committing most of the violence against others, within male dominated social structures which prevent women from rising to power, and between nation states where the prospect of going to war is largely a violent male activity. 

Now while I would agree that the physical aggression males commit under the rubric of 'toxic masculinity'  is indeed toxic what I don't think qualifies as toxic is the kind of perceived threat that only the New Wave Feminists (NWF) and their allies make against the men. 

You know the kind of feminist that loves to deride the toxic men who ride public transportation with their legs spread six inches too far. To label that kind of action "territorial and aggressive" amounts to nothing more than absurd arm chair Sociology. 

Now you may grant the kind of pseudo-anthropology of baboon observing anthropologists applying cross species comparisons to humans, but I just can't get worked up about micro-aggressions like that. Nor do I buy that the domination of women is explained only by the vague, nebulous background radiation of 'the patriarchy' which allows men to interrupt women with a mouthful of mansplaining when women wish to speak up in business meetings. 

There may indeed be issues here worthy of our discussion, but there are existential threats made against women every day.  When a woman is killed or sexually attacked you can bet it was one of her close male companions, or one of her male family members. 

If I were in charge of the feminist agenda I'd focus less on micro aggression and more on the physical, mental, and sexual abuse of women by men. Like when I speak as a male advocate, I speak against the negative affects of the Patriarchy on men. I concentrate on the self-harm men do to themselves and others. In part I do that because I think it's easy to then show how the patriarchy negatively effects men and that ironically how often the very proponents of New Wave Feminists {NWF} (here I mean middle and upper class white women) are actually the main beneficiaries of patriarchy and aggression. 

So why do we hear about these men out there getting upset about the feminist agenda? Ironically, it's similar to a position that many feminists articulate. Men are worriedthat their voices have been silenced on many issues that concern them. Men's rights groups in particular feel they are being asked to silence their voices when they discuss how patriarchy and toxic masculinity effects them.

I'm too am accused of speaking out against the feminist agenda. I get lumped in with the conservatives, the religious right, the extreme MRM and even though I never quite understood what those conservatives, incels, and many on the MGTOW guys meant by a 'feminist agenda.' Did they mean that they were against women voting? Were they against equal pay or are they not for women feeling safe when they walk home alone? Because if that's it, we've had that debate for the last 100 years or so and those archaic ideas lost. So, no, I don't actually think anti feminists disagree with the goals of the first feminists, unless we're talking about the extreme right wing religious groups like the Dominionists. Dominionists may actually want to keep women in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant, but frankly most people don't accept those ideas. 

Instead Red Pill guys are trying to carve out space to talk about how men are disproportionately impacted by our society too. MRM proponents offer up statistics on how men are discriminated against in child custody cases. Women are more likely to initiate divorce and benefit from aggressive child support and alimony. Men are disportionatly impacted by society as well. You can see this when in statistics where men end their lives at higher rates, they are more likely to become incarcerated and for longer times even for the same crimes as women. Men die of natural causes earlier than women. We suffer mental illness without treatment which leads to higher rates of male homelessness. Since men go without mental health care we are more likely to be drug addicts and more likely to overdose. 

Men also suffer violence from other violent men. In addition there is a crisis for boys in schooling. We graduate at such low rates that only 40 percent of college graduates are men despite being greater than 50 percent of the population in that age group. Women graduate now in greater numbers with Master's degrees and PhD's. Though not in Science or Engineering degrees because women tend to prefer useless degrees in social science and women's studies. And finally, men are are much more likely to hold the dirty and dangerous jobs, and we are far more likely to die at work than a woman. Women again here are the beneficiaries of male work and risk, yet they complain that all the good jobs that they do not choose are siloed by toxic men. 

Hypergamy Hates Equality

BUT before men can finish even making those  arguments New Wave Feminists interrupt to tell them that they are actually trying to do is silence women and avoid taking responsibility for their aggression, or men are trying to change the subject so they don't have to help change toxic men. New Wave Feminism denies men the right to be victims, because after all men can only be perpetrators in the patriarchy not victims. 

New Wave Feminism doesn't just have a feminist agenda of promoting women at the expense of men. NWF has an ulterior motive against equality. It promotes the silencing of Men. It shames male victims and buries male concerns in order to present only women as victims. 

In addition, New Wave Feminism is at the core of new set of social mores that are filled with anti-science rhetoric. Denying scientific differences between males and females it promotes the unrealistic flattering of women through girl power and female worship. 

NWF promotes harmful sexual practices. Some men see this in the slutification of women. AKA Sex work is empowering. Don't wear bras in public. Practice non-monogamy. To be honest I don't have a  problem with these things. I do think sex work is far more problematic than liberal feminists lead on. But I say hooray to exploring your sexual selves. And ladies if you want to show me half your ass, go  right ahead. But here's where my first problem with women starts they are full of contradictions. 

Júrgen Habermas spoke of the performative contradiction. A woman that wants to display her body, but also wants, "to be allowed to be comfortable in her skin" is a bit of a walking contradiction. She insists that the display of her body is unsexual. But she is also aware that she constantly ignites the male gaze with it. 

THE SLUTIFICATION OF WOMEN

But a naked body is not sexual. I protest. A naked body is sexual. One must acknowledge that historically the body was seen as sexual; however, society and FWF are trying to normalize female display. We have the campaign to free the nipple. Female dress has become relaxed showing more skin. Form fitting fitness clothing has become fashionable and is routinely worn outside of the gym. There is an odd cultural preoccupation with the female anus instead of breast. 

The actual reason fitness wear and tight yoga pants became so fashionable for most women is a reaction against feminists promoting fat acceptance, along with the feminist's perverse desire to animalize men into worshipping the butt. 

You see in shape people first started wearing their gym attire in public to prove how attractive and fit they were. Out of shape women use the fitness wear in order to co-opt the hallmarks of attractiveness. So despite the denials of sexuality found in revealing clothing or the calls by feminists that empowerment is confirmed by wearing it, displaying one's body is still wrapped in the ornamental nature of female sexual display. The very display that women have used historically to attract mates. 

In order to survive Men must see through this rubric even though feminism has largely succeeded in altering the male mind. The ass has become a focus of male sexual projection. Our animal nature is engorged. But this is simply another path to defund the natural male desire for procreation. It is hoped men devalue the vagina, the giverer of life, and devalue the breast, the nurturer of the new born. Men fall victim to this because of the near extinction level decrease in testosterone  today. 

A possible future the Handmaid's dystopia 

I see a future where the world slips into dystopia. This plausible future has continued pollution, environmental problems, and modern lifestyles continuing to lower sperm count and testosterone. Sperm count decline alone could necessitate the rise of cloning practices which could drive my gender extinct. Women naturally live in a state of fear and the increase in female political power will only exacerbate the increase of social control over aggressive men. First through uncontrolled hyper surveillance of capitalism (which men will create) and then through the increased control of our genetic endowment. Women will seek to empty men of their aggressive impulses leaving us emotionally neutered sperm donors at best, or worse physical slaves for the dirty work they choose not to do. 

THE PROBLEM WITH WOMEN 

Why do women behave this way? It's because in their hearts women have been genetically programed to resent democracy and equality. Women evolved to let the natural alpha lead. But Male dominance is (as we are told) undemocratic. So in fact the informed female has always understood her aversion to democracy. She has never sought equality. She has sought protection and procreation from her alpha mate. Inadvertently, she has encouraged dominance from men by her sexual selection. 

In addition, evolutionary psychology  predicts her desire to resource harvest from beta men. Today's technology allows women to shrug off evolution's natural male dominance. It allows for the non- monogamous. Women can scan for alpha on tinder and use hook up culture to avoid social embarrassment at sleeping around. The advent of new technologies like Only Fan's and Venmo allow women to turn their orbiters into paying customers, finally realizing the dream of women to resource harvest from beta and procreate with alphas. This seems as perverse as the male strategy of low parental involvement, but the female mating strategy is still considered the default. Even moral. 

IS PATRIARCHY EQUALITY? 

I promise I'm not going George Orwell on you. Matriarchal strategy only promises women hypergamy. The social dominance of women leaves 80% of men without a mate. Since the beginning of the Patriarchy men have been proscribed mates. Equality. In patriarchy nearly the whole of society got married. Most men. Most women. The percentage was in the high 90's.

But not today. Not with the advent of of the New Wave Feminist. Marriage rates are plummeting. Especially for young men. There is a huge rise in male virginity. And many men no longer have access to any companionship, sex, or love at all. Conversely, the loosening of mortality's hold on sexual behavior has the body count of women rising exponentially. She's got it and she flaunts it. 

Her words are, "I want only to be treated as a man. To be able to display my body with no sexual meaning." 

But the male body has no sexual meaning only because  women have no need for the vast majority of male bodies. Therefore the naked penis is a violent act. A criminal conspiracy of suggestive rape. Low status males have no right to companionship. Nor should they seek it. The mere contemplation seems criminal to women, who jealously guard their fertilization strategy. 

The woman does not actually wish to be seen as a man. She seeks only to replace him. She seeks his annihilation! 

*I mean it's not like I brought my AK-47 to a  fitness center to shoot down a bunch of hot 20 year old girls? Did I admire the guy who did? Sure. Did I add his name to my list of heroes on Facebook? Of course. Does that make me toxic, or just funny? You can decide if you have a sense of humor.